Role of a Perfect Husband #ShareTheLoad

A women is always expected to do the household chores such as washing clothes, cleaning utensils, taking care of her child, cooking food and also keeping things ready for her husband. Things may change but the tag of being a homemaker will always remain with women no matter even if she earns more than the male earner of her house. But the best part of women is that, even after doing all that, she will always greet you with a smile on her face. And this is why she is called a 'Woman'.

Gender inequality has many drawbacks and the major drawback of it is that it brings limitations to what kind of a life does a woman wishes to live. Due to workloads a woman is the one who wakes up early in the morning before everyone else and then she spends her half of the time in order to make things easier for others. This is a story that happens in every house and due to this a woman has to sacrifice all her personal plans for the betterment of her family. Well, that was not the reason why a woman took birth, even she has her own life to enjoy. Even she likes going out to work and feels the same tiredness what her husband feels after returning home from her job, but still she has to step into the kitchen to prepare the dinner for her family. 

In my last article I shared some ways that can help us teach some good values to the next generation kids so that they don't turn out to be gender stereotypes in future. In this article I will be throwing light on how can a husband's behaviour towards his wife help to teach some good values of gender equality to their children.

A mother can make her children learn to do things on their own and that can help to establish gender equality for household chores in the future, but a husband's attitude towards her wife can mentally shape many things in their child's mind which can leave good or bad impression for a woman depending on how a husband behaves with his wife.

The theory is simple that a child learns the same what he or she sees in his/her parents. If I child sees his father disrespecting his mom, even he may do the same thing with his wife in future. But he sees his father supporting and loving his mom, he may also support his wife in future. 

So the role of a father and a husband turns out to be very important if we are looking forward to teach gender equality values to the kids of next generation. And here are the values that husband should inculcate so that his child may respect his woman equally in the future:

1. Stop giving orders to your wife and try to do your work on your own.

If your son watches you working then surely he himself will learn to do his work on his own.

2. Forgive her if she does a mistake and start to find a solution for the mistake with a smile.

Generally husbands try to scold and slap their wife if she does a mistake, but this is wrong. Even she is a human and can make mistakes, if you start hitting her then this will not leave a good impression about the relations between a man and a woman in his mind.

3. Give her a holiday.

No matter if your wife works out or if she is only a housewife, even she gets tired and needs a break. Give her a holiday and take her out for shopping or a movie. Your child will learn to respect the work she does.

4. Work together as a family.

There may be times when the workload on your wife may be more. Come together as a family and help her in her work, this will maintain the happiness in your family and also your child may get to learn many things from both of you.

5. Always be there for her.

There may be good and bad times in your family, support her equally all the time. Your child will learn to do the same with his partner in the future.

 I am taking part in the #ShareTheLoad Challenge with Ariel and Akshara at BlogAdda.

Time to Redefine Gender Equality #ShareTheLoad

Women Equality, Women Empowerment, Women Rights, Women Safety, etc. are words which sound good when they are trending on Twitter on the Women's day with different hash tags but things come back to normal on the very next day. Women have fought a long battle since ages for respect and independence in the society and in comparison to the conditions that were 100 years back, today the women stand at a far better place then what it used to be before. Women are now free to get education, they have also started working as professionals in various different fields, the blames for giving birth to a girl child have also come down, but even after all this women are still expected to be a perfect homemaker. 

Equality between a man and a woman is one of the topics which is never giving complete importance and is being ignored since years. If you pick any example of a working woman either from your family or from your friends or relatives, you will find similar things being a part of every woman's life and a bitter truth above all this is that many of us do realize that these things are wrong but still we don't do something on it as we are habitual to it. But now the time has come to break the shackles of the very primitive thinking.

And for that we need to change the way people think about women, and that can be only achieved if this theory is corrected in the minds of children who are growing today so that in future we may see the things being changed. Here are some values that should be inculcated by the next generation so that they understand the gender equality in the household activities and there are gender stereotypes in the coming future:

1. Every child should learn doing his/her work on its own. 

If we teach a child to start doing a little part of his work on his own from today, then in the future that same child who will turn into an adult will have the habit of doing all his work on its own.

2. Children should be taught to wash their clothes and utensils on their own.

From the age of 10 onward, children should at least learn to wash their undergarments and small utensils like bowls, spoons and plates on their own. 

3. A child should be taught to work together with his family.

During festivals when the lady of the house is busy cleaning the entire house, children with other members of the family should distribute the work according to the ages so that the child may learn to do small chores such as cleaning and will also be inspired with his family members to work together and help his mother/ sister/ aunt.

In this way a child will also become self-dependent rather than being a lazy person and that primitive theory will never enter in his mind that only women should do the household chores and in future he may turn out to be a better companion for his partner. A happiness exists permanently in families where both the man and woman walk hand in hand throughout their life.

I am taking part in the #ShareTheLoad Challenge with Ariel and Akshara at BlogAdda.